…I awoke at 5am for the last time in my home in Memphis. I packed the last of my belongings into my car, those which the moving van had not taken the day before, like the TV because I was still watching 9/11 coverage. I said good-bye to my good friend and roommate George. I said good-bye to Memphis. And then I drove five hours to St. Louis and signed the lease on my new apartment and on a new life. The moving truck arrived shortly after with my furniture and clothes. I had no personal friends here. I did have a job at least, which was the main reason for me moving to St. Louis in the first place. I would report to work for my first day just two days later on Sunday.
However, work was not my only intention. I had lived in Memphis for six years and had not had a serious relationship that had lasted longer than a few months. In April the following year, I’d get my wish when I met someone who I spent a year with. But he wasn’t the one. In July 2003, I not only switched jobs but also met the love of my life. Yep, I’d spent two years in St. Louis and still wasn’t getting what I wanted from life and then I met J. That was 8 years ago and we are still together. We moved in together shortly after meeting, adopted two dogs, bought a house two years later. Adopted another dog together. And here we are, still together having just celebrated our 8 year anniversary this past July.
People often say to be careful what you wish for because you just might get it. And I’d say that’s very true in my case if you indeed want what you wished for. I wanted love…serious love. I wanted stability in a relationship. I wanted a friend. I wanted the self-esteem, pride, and joy that comes from having someone in your life. From loving someone and knowing they love you back. I didn’t want to be alone anymore, and I’m not. I’ll admit St. Louis has not been kind to me. It’s too far north for my taste. It’s been difficult making good friends. But in the end, after 10 years, I can at least say it made my wish come true and I can’t imagine being anywhere else.